There have been times in our lives when we wished we would have kept a thought in our head and not expressed it to others. It’s those times, we should have used our THOUGHT BUBBLE. We communicate our feelings, thoughts and ideas during conversation with others. However, not everything we think needs to be said. Sometimes expressing thoughts out loud can be inappropriate, annoying, uninteresting or rude.
Children that have difficulty with social skills are often challenged by conversation. They may make inappropriate or offensive comments (Williamson & Dorman, 2002). A variety of difficulties is associated with a tendency to inappropriately verbalize thoughts, including:
- Perseveration on preferred topics or activities that cause children to ‘get stuck’ talking about things in detail, even though the listener or play partner is not interested
- A tendency to think out loud or repeat things that have already been said
- Impulsivity that leads to speaking without thinking first
- Lack of ability to read cues that would help others know what is appropriate to say
- A limited repertoire of ideas to share
- Difficulty understanding that some thoughts may be hurtful or insulting
Children who are not careful about what they say to others are at risk for social difficulties. As they get older, inappropriate comments can lead to socially awkward, confusing and even dangerous situations.
- A thought bubble is a place where ideas that are not shared by others are kept.
- Words that are not appropriate for the conversation can stay in our heads, safely in the thought bubble.
- We can use the ideas kept in our thought bubbles to practice what we want to say.
Once the child understands the concept, set up some rules about the thought bubble:
- Think before you speak.
- Not everything we think needs to be said.
- If we think about something that is not related to the conversation (for example, thinking about dinosaurs when everyone else is talking about movies), we keep that in a thought bubble.
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Williamson, G. & Dorman, W. (2002). Promoting social competence. San Antonio, TX. Therapy Skills Builders.